I'm still around, just not on very often. (Not for a bad reason, I just have 3 kids and am busy with "normal" life.)
I know just what you mean about no one knowing, from the outside, how alien we feel. I still feel like an outsider quite often. I have some groups I enjoy being part of, but it never quite goes away -- and it sometimes sneaks up on me rather hard. I don't know how to tell you how to feel ok with it, I just somehow am. Most of the time LOL sometimes not so much. I suppose partly it's because my husband and I are very close and he makes me feel "normal" and "okay" and not so alien. I've had a lot of therapy too -- therapy and meds. They helped a lot with flashbacks and such.
Wish I had more advice for you.
Somebody has to speak for these people.... no more running. I aim to misbehave.... If you can't do something smart, do something right. (Serenity)