LittleSister, I'm so sorry that this is happening, and I completely understand what you are going through.
I wish I could tell you that there's a magic word that would change your brother's mind, but there isn't. Scientology is very adept at making people. Your brother now believes that he is fighting for the good of the universe, and he has been told that anyone who tries to talk him out of it is evil.
You will have to be the grown-up in your family now. Here are a few things to tell your mom (and to keep in mind yourself!) about the best way to deal with your brother:
- Don't say anything bad about Scientology to him if you can avoid it. Continually tell him that you love him and are there for him, and that if he is happy you are happy for him.
- Don't treat him like a victim, or worry about him too much. Scientologists believe that victims are "downtone" (negative), and anyone who feels pity or expresses too much concern is trying to drive him "downtone".
- Encourage him to read books other than Scientology books. Anything at all. Recommend good books to him frequently.
- Take your brother out as often as you can, and spend as much time with him as you can. Go to the movies, go to the park, go to lectures and concerts. This will help ensure that he doesn't slip into a world of only being associated with Scientologists and no one else.
- Have your mother come here and read our site. She or you is welcome to write me at
kendra@exscientologykids.com for support and help. I can help you and her understand what your brother is going through right now.
It is possible that they may try to track you down through your internet posts, but to be honest, unless you reveal a lot of personal information, or reveal the specifics of your situation, they probably will never figure out who you are. They did track me down at one point, but only because I revealed
exact details of my situation. It was fairly easy for them to figure out who I was, so don't worry.
If you need anything at all, please email us, and we will do our best.